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The French call a piece of candy a bonbon. It means “good good.”

Among the things in life that are good good (and all of which I did yesterday):

  • an entire day with a friend who’s in Paris for the first time since you moved there
  • a lunch of hot curry, cool rice pudding with cardamom, and hot espresso
  • an after-lunch stroll through seedy Pigalle
  • wild raspberry tea in a cozy Paris apartment on a cold, gray afternoon
  • delicious conversation
  • exquisite chocolate bonbons

Not just any old bonbons either. Yesterday, my friend turned me on to a French national treasure—two, in fact: À l’étoile d’or, a magical chocolaterie-confiserie, and its proprietress, Madame Denise Acabo, a wacky little old lady who dresses like a French school girl (and has since she was a French schoolgirl).

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La Belette Rouge, (The Red Weasel), a delightful Francophile blogger I discovered while shamelessly trolling for Francophile blogs in order to promote Francophilia, and with whom I’ve had some lovely exchanges lately, has tagged me to do a “10 Random Things About Me” post.

Et pourquoi pas ? It’s a bit narcissistic, but all in good fun. I guess it can give an impressionistic view of who you are and where your head is, like a word association test (always wished someone would give me one of those and then tell me the key to myself).

I kind of went the random-things route in the last paragraph of the About Me for this blog, mostly just because I was at a loss. But when I wrote that, I felt like I was digging through the jewelry box I’ve had since I was 14 and picking out treasures to show a friend.

So in addition to those gems, here are 10 more random items from the jewelry box…

  1. …in which I have all of my son’s baby teeth. I wanted a little red-headed boy and I got one. Now he’s a big red-headed boy (6′1″).
  2. I cross my right leg over my left.
  3. I hate getting phone calls. I’d rather get an e-mail. (Except in the case of about four people on the planet.) I’d rather write than talk in general.
  4. If I had to decide what to eat for a last meal it would be Brie, ripe kiwis and avocados, cheese fries from that snack bar in Balboa Park right outside the Spanish Village, a bean burrito from El Indio, and beer.
  5. When I was 12, I had a pet kingsnake I named Hamlet.
  6. I had five wisdom teeth. That means I’m wiser than most. Unless the fact that I had them all pulled means I’m not wise at all.
  7. I have five tiny rings on my left pinkie that never come off. One of them is an art deco ruby and diamond ring that belonged to my great-grandmother, who was born in 1894. The other four are tiny bands I got in Hawaii. Size 3.5.
  8. Said pinkie and its counterpart are crooked because of some chromosome malfunction that makes the inside tendon of the last joint short and which has something to do with English aristocracy. I read it in a medical textbook when I was doing research for my master’s thesis, a translation of a breastfeeding guide. But I’m sure whatever ancestor it was was just some blueblood’s exploited servant.
  9. I miss Virgil, my redbone coonhound. My 6 year-old niece asked what his middle name was and I told her it was Spaghetti. It was. Long story. But the kind of thing you’d expect from someone whose mother named her poodle Popsickle.
  10. I hate memes. But I really like the weasel, so I’m making an exception. It wasn’t that painful for me. Hope it wasn’t for you.

That’s it, party’s over. I’m tagging Antwerp Calling. (Feel free to ignore the tag, but pass it along if you know someone who’d enjoy playing!)

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A September Sunday in the métro.

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Not quite sure exactly what those words mean, but I’m pretty sure they have something to do with used clothes. They sound really cool in any case. And, if you speak French and are looking for vintage clothes in Paris, those would be your key words.

This is a follow-up to my desperate plea for info on thrift and vintage clothing stores in Paris. I got a bunch of responses from women who took pity on my poor soul. Thanks to LaPageFrançaise and Melissa in London for the last two in the list below. Thanks to TechBee for finding me this forum, which led me to Sarah Haro, a girl after my own heart.

Here’s a list of places I have at least partial addresses for from various sources. Enough to get you started. Also check the comments on the original post for some tips. On Sarah’s blog Paris Vintage, you’ll find great details about some of the shops listed below and the addresses of more shops that I don’t list here because she’s indicated that they’re pricey.

Come on Eileen – 16/18 rue des Taillandiers, 75011

Chez Mamie – 73 rue de Rochechouart, 75009

Iglaîne – 12, rue de la grande Truanderie, 75001

La Belle Epoque – 10 rue de Poitou, 75003

Magic Retour – 36 rue de la Sablière, 75014

MamzElle Swing – 5 bis rue du Roi de Sicile, 75004

Oh Lumière – 21 rue de la République, 75001

Puces de Vanves (flea market) – Avenue Marc-Sangnier et Georges Lafenestre, 75014

Casablanca – 17 rue Moret, 75011

Emmaus Boutique: 22, bd Beaumarchais, 75004

Don’t know the name of this one (even though I was there yesterday…) It’s next to L’As du Falafel, which is at 34, rue des Rosiers, 75004

Guerrisol – (around 31) avenue du Clichy, 75017

Pretty Box – 46, rue de Saintonge, 75003

Huge thrift shop somewhere on Rue Faubourg de Temple, between Belleville and Republique

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I was already a francophile by the time I was eight (that’s about when I became aware that I got excited about anything French), but I don’t think there’s a French bone in my body. The only reason I’ve been able to come up with for my precocious francophilia is the now obscure animated feature film, Gay Purr-ee (1962). It came on TV only once a year (I was born before cable) and watching it was a family ritual and big event. I was already looking forward to it by the time I was five, so I must have started watching it early in my formative years…

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It’s the romantic story of a couple of country cats, Jaune Tom and Mewsette. Jaune Tom loves Mewsette, but she hungers for something more exciting than simple country life and ends up in Paris, where she encounters all kinds of dangers and difficulties. Of course Jaune Tom saves her and they end up living happily ever after back in the country.

I was utterly impressionable and defenseless and the movie seduced me on every level. I caught Mewsette’s longing for Paris, and a francophile was born. I’m sure it didn’t hurt that Mewsette’s silken, dainty voice was that of Judy Garland, or that Jaune Tom’s was done by smooth-as-molasses Robert Goulet. The music is great, there are plenty of abstract backdrops that are über kitsch, and the Paris scenes look just like all those watercolors that every other American owned in the 50s (when most Americans were francophiles).

Long before VCRs came along, they stopped showing it on TV, so I didn’t see Gay Purr-ee again till almost 30 years later, when it was finally released on video. I watched it again and realized why it had disappeared into obscurity. The movie was simply too scandalous to be considered appropriate entertainment for children…

You see, some slick city cat (Meowrice) found Mewsette wandering around Paris and planned to ship her off as a mail-order bride to some cat in America. So he escorted her to the home of a friend, a lady cat who happened to be the madam of a cat brothel (!). This madam cat undertook Mewsette’s “finishing” (she needed to smooth those rough bumpkin edges) and Mewsette was pampered in the comfort of the kitty brothel (innocently ignorant) till the time when she would be sent away.

Such a shame Americans are so uptight! I might not be who I am if I’d been born just a few years later… Probably wouldn’t have a fleur-de-lys tattoo on my foot (souvenir of New Orleans). Wouldn’t have done two and a half degrees in French. Wouldn’t be living in Paris. Wouldn’t be nearly so fond of Williams-Sonoma. Freaky.

The other day I read a great post by Polly-Vous Français on how Morticia Addams probably singlehandedly created a generation of francophiles. Polly’s post inspired this one, in fact. But by the time I was watching The Addams Family, I was already a fully formed francophile. And, of course, my favorite part of the show was when Morticia would speak French and drive Gomez wild with passion…

I’d be very interested to know, dear reader, what made you a francophile.

In the meantime, you can get Gay Purr-ee at Amazon (.com and .fr). Buy it! You won’t regret it. And show it to your kids…

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I am currently experiencing the worst thrift store jones of my life. I’ve been here for 10 months and I have the shakes bad.

My mom called it junkin’. She dragged me through thrift stores my entire childhood and I became an addict. She would find me the coolest stuff. The vintage 60s Barbie lunchbox she got me when I was in 2nd grade was to die for; wish I still had it. I guess it started in the 50s, when her grandmother used to take her along on early morning walks through the alleys of West LA to go digging through her neighbors’ discard piles (OK, trash).

Most of my friends tell me they don’t have the patience for it, or the knack. I, on the other hand, abhor retail shopping. There’s just no romance in walking up to a rack of 50 identical shirts. Sure, I go thrift shopping to find funky clothes and treasures, but I get a lot more out of it than that. I paid a buck for my favorite black leather belt (wide, 70s), which I bought at a San Diego thrift shop 19 years ago (and it’s still in great shape). The end of it has dog teeth marks. I love that my belt has a dog tug-of-war story!

Aside. Now, I know this is a girl thing. If you’re a guy and you’ve even made it this far, your eyes are probably glazing over. If you’re a woman or if you’ve ever had a girlfriend, you know women can tell you exactly what they were wearing on a certain day at a certain event. That’s because what we wear is an extension of our personalities as well as an indicator of our moods, the message we want to send, or the level of our self-confidence on a given day. Our clothes and jewelry often have very strong emotional associations. (I won’t go into why this is, how awful it is that we’re victims of marketing and societal this and that, whether it’s good or bad. Another day. For purposes of this entry, it just is.)

So when I’m surfing the racks and shelves, I can’t help but ponder the sociological implications of the kinds of things people donate and what they buy in the first place. The associated experiences and emotions. The history. I sometimes imagine the mindset of a woman when she bought something and when she wore it, and I draw conclusions about who she was. I know for a fact that women shop when they’re in weird moods, which guarantees that they’ll buy fun clothes that they’ll just end up donating, never having worked up the courage to wear them. I count on that. A girl who’s barely courageous enough to deviate from beige will walk into a store and, inexplicably, the only clothes that look good to her that day are red. Or she’ll just be feeling sassy and convince herself that she’ll actually wear that halter top sundress with the giant pink hibiscus print when it gets warm enough. Or she’ll read in Vogue that orange is the new pink and come home with an orange miniskirt and go-go boots, determined to reinvent herself. Women shop mad, they shop sad (their judgment is frequently impaired when they’re doing therapeutic shopping). They lose weight or tell themselves they will. They get divorced and replace their entire wardrobes (check). The results of their inexplicable shopping urges and closet purges are destined for the thrift store.

I relive eras, too. It seems like everybody gets rid of their outdated stuff at the same time. In the early 80s, for the longest time, there was a major owl infestation in thrift stores; everything owl, from incense burners to the macrame wall hangings with the requisite stick of driftwood (remember the early 70s?). We had one. For a while, in the 90s, there was a glut of turquoise (and salmon) howling coyotes (and saguaro cactuses) after everybody got over that horrific, vapid “southwest” look of the 80s. (Bleckh.) Junking offers a truly unique glimpse into other people’s lives as well as insight into our culture in general. It’s so much more than shopping; for me it’s a rich form of entertainment.

Of course, then ebay came along. Now it’s nearly impossible to find cool jewelry and knickknacks in the thrift stores since people have caught on. So I go to ebay for such things. It’s fun and efficient, but doing a keyword search for “poodle” in the jewelry category isn’t nearly as magical as discovering a tarnished sterling poodle face peeking out from among discarded VFW pins and mardi gras beads…

So here I am in Paris with not a Goodwill in sight. Who in her right mind could live in Paris and bemoan the lack of second-hand stores? Well, nobody said I was in my right mind. Alas, the French just do not seem to get the “one man’s trash is another man’s treasure” concept. Either that or the rent is just too high for such establishments.

The other day I went to the only thrift store I’ve found in Paris, run by a huge Catholic charity, which might explain why they can afford the rent (Emmaus Boutique: 22, bd Beaumarchais). It was lamentable. Tiny place with drab, crap clothes and stuff for old ladies. [Addendum: I went back (you knew I would) and I actually found a couple of cute tops. This place will do in a pinch. Which I'm in...] A couple of weeks ago, I did discover a vintage shop next door to L’As du Falafel (34, rue des Rosiers), the most popular falafel place in the Marais. Saw a powder blue suede miniskirt (70s) there for only 5 euros, but I was late for a lunch date and had to run. I’m going back this week when I have some time. And when it gets truly unbearable (sometime between right this instant and when I go to LA in July), I’ll be checking out Come On Eileen (Thank you PetiteBrigitte!).

If there’s anyone out there who can tell me where I can go to find second-hand or vintage shops in Paris, please tell me. You can die from withdrawal, you know!

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I was a solitary kid. My mom had to force me to go outside to play during school vacations because, if I’d had my way, I would have stayed in PJs in my room reading all day, every day. I did manage to read all seven of the Narnia books one spring break when I was about 11, probably only because I sliced my foot open on a broken Coke bottle on the one day I did go outside. Bonus!

I still love to read, as you might expect, but I’m not a bilbiophile. I can’t keep many books because I move around so much (a pattern developed for me in childhood). So I read a book and pass it on to a friend or donate it to a thrift store. There are a few that travel with me, like a first edition of Children of the Albatross by Anaïs Nin that my brother gave me (a breathtaking book), a trashed paperback copy of The Witches of Eastwick (Updike), which I never tire of reading (it’s a lot darker and more substantial than the fuffy movie based on it), my Duras collection. Lots of big, fat dictionaries (I may be a geek, but I’m a Luddite when it comes to dictionaries. It’s a sensual thing; I love their weight, the feel of that thin paper, the sounds of the pages turning and flipping and slapping, the way they smell…).

I never really understood why people collect books. For me, it’s not about having a book, it’s about experiencing it and sharing it. I knew one guy who had a massive collection of old books. He was a compulsive collector and very into impressing people too. I’ve also known people who get bent out of shape if you place a paperback face down and open. Paperbacks are meant to be kneaded and taken into the tub and fallen asleep on and shoved into pockets. That I don’t get.

I really started this post just to tell you about a free book-trading website Vincent discovered called BookMooch. I got a little sidetracked. Hope you don’t mind.

Basically, you create an account, list books you want to trade, and search other people’s book lists to see if there are any books you’d like to have. It’s all free. All you have to pay for is mailing your books to others. There’s a points system too, based on how many titles you list to give away. I think with points you can get more books than you’re giving away.

I haven’t joined BookMooch yet, but I plan to. It looks like there are already members worldwide and over a thousand books available in France. I’ll be sending out a couple of e-mails to see if I can start some buzz in the anglophone bookworm community here so we can get some book trading going…